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Samson Dawah was nervous. For two weeks, he had waited for any bit of information regarding his niece, who was among the 234 Nigerian school girls likely kidnapped by the terrorist group Boko Haram. This week, he gathered his extended family. He had news but also an unusual request. He asked that the elderly not attend. He wasn’t sure they could bear what he had to say.

“We have heard from members of the forest community where they took the girls,” he told them, adding that there had been a mass marriage. ”They said there had been mass marriages and the girls are being shared out as wives among the Boko Haram militants.”

The girl’s father fainted, the Guardian reported, and has since been hospitalized. But the news got worse. Village elder Pogo Bitrus told Agence France Presse locals had consulted with “various sources” in the nation’s forested northeast. 

“From the information we received yesterday from Cameroonian border towns our abducted girls were taken… into Chad and Cameroon,” he said, adding that each girl was sold as a bride to Islamist militants for 2,000 naira — $12.

The Washington Post could not independently verify such claims, and the Nigerian defense ministry didn’t immediately return requests for comment Wednesday morning. But if true, the news would add another terrifying wrinkle to an already horrifying set of events that has galvanized the nation, spurred foreign leaders to take notice, and exposed the powerlessness of President Goodluck Jonathan’s administration in the face of a radicalized and murderous militant group named Boko Haram. 

Hundreds of kidnapped Nigerian school girls reportedly sold as brides to militants for $12, relatives say

Samson Dawah was nervous. For two weeks, he had waited for any bit of information regarding his niece, who was among the 234 Nigerian school girls likely kidnapped by the terrorist group Boko Haram. This week, he gathered his extended family. He had news but also an unusual request. He asked that the elderly not attend. He wasn’t sure they could bear what he had to say.

“We have heard from members of the forest community where they took the girls,” he told them, adding that there had been a mass marriage. ”They said there had been mass marriages and the girls are being shared out as wives among the Boko Haram militants.”

The girl’s father fainted, the Guardian reported, and has since been hospitalized. But the news got worse. Village elder Pogo Bitrus told Agence France Presse locals had consulted with “various sources” in the nation’s forested northeast.

“From the information we received yesterday from Cameroonian border towns our abducted girls were taken… into Chad and Cameroon,” he said, adding that each girl was sold as a bride to Islamist militants for 2,000 naira — $12.

The Washington Post could not independently verify such claims, and the Nigerian defense ministry didn’t immediately return requests for comment Wednesday morning. But if true, the news would add another terrifying wrinkle to an already horrifying set of events that has galvanized the nation, spurred foreign leaders to take notice, and exposed the powerlessness of President Goodluck Jonathan’s administration in the face of a radicalized and murderous militant group named Boko Haram.

Hundreds of kidnapped Nigerian school girls reportedly sold as brides to militants for $12, relatives say

According to data from the American Judges’ Association, 70 percent of contested custody cases involving domestic violence eventually grant joint or sole custody to the abuser.
Eliza Shapiro reports on the hurdles rich abused women face, from disbelief by peers to the ‘legal dream teams’ hired by high-income husbands, which results in statistics like the above. 

10 Marriage Proposals Asked of Jeremy Lin Last Night

Jeremy Lin held a Facebook Q&A last night! Lots of ladies asked for his hand in marriage. Here are 10 of their proposals.

  1. Would you ever marry a black girl?
  2. Do you think you will be in good condition for the playoffs? And will you marry me?
  3. I hope you’re feeling well! & sorry to all the other ladies, but I think it’s only right that we get married, since we’re both from Cali and now live in NY…obviously?
  4. I saw our names next to each other! It’s fate — let’s get married!
  5. Hey, I waited since you tweeted about the Q&A. Will you marry me?
  6. Can we get married today or tomorrow?
  7. Jeremy can we get married? Please?
  8. Will you marry me, Jeremy? LOL it rhymes
  9. Jeremy Lin: I love Asian men. Marry me…now!
  10. Will you marry my sister?

[h/t WSJ for running the numbers on this.]

When that fame hits, everyone around your husband starts telling him he’s great and he’s perfect. As a wife, you’re supposed to just fall in line and go along with it all. That wears thin after a while.
It’s not so fun being an NBA star’s wife.
Is Monogamy Obsolete? 


65 percent of women—and a whopping 80 percent of men—say they’d cheat if they knew they wouldn’t get caught.

21 percent of people who answered a 14,000-person Oprah.com survey said they have an open marriage.
More than half of Americans cheat, and yet 70 to 85 percent of adults think cheating is wrong.
(Image: GAB Archive/Getty)

Is Monogamy Obsolete?

  • 65 percent of women—and a whopping 80 percent of men—say they’d cheat if they knew they wouldn’t get caught.

  • 21 percent of people who answered a 14,000-person Oprah.com survey said they have an open marriage.
  • More than half of Americans cheat, and yet 70 to 85 percent of adults think cheating is wrong.

(Image: GAB Archive/Getty)

Sorry, Y’all! We’ve Been a Little Busy….

equalitymyth:

working on this:

We know this is going to strike a chord with people—marriage is an intensely personal choice—and we’ve already gotten some pretty impassioned responses from friends, family, and colleagues. Now we want to know what you think. Don’t hold back!

Oh—and check out our friend/colleague Andrew Romano’s rebuttal: A modern man’s perspective on why marriage isn’t dead.

Though we’re Team Romano, Jess and Jesse make a good case.

Our roles within the relationship are not defined by gender. They’re defined by who we are as people. And that’s the point. Stripping marriage of all its antiquated ancillary benefits—its grubby socioeconomic justifications—might make it “unnecessary,” strictly speaking. But it also makes it much more … well, romantic. (This logic applies to gay marriage as well.) Dustin doesn’t need marriage for financial security, or to ensure that I help raise our children. I don’t need a housewife. The tax breaks are irrelevant. All we’re “getting” is each other. In a world where the practical reasons for marriage no longer apply, the only reason left is love. And while cohabitation and monogamy are dandy—Dustin and I have practiced both for years—I’d rather express my affection by indulging in a defiant, irrational, outmoded act of pure symbolism than by simply maintaining the status quo. Doing what you don’t have to do is always more meaningful than doing what’s necessary.